If you are a muslimah but you are not a hijabi, if you are a hijabi, you are not a niqabi, if you don’t have a beard you are not a true muslim, if you are a revert you are not a real muslim (true story), if you are a namazi you are too religious, if you support jihad you are an extremist, if you listen to music you are a sinner, if you made mistakes you are not good enough, if you are gay, you are evil, if you are a smoker you are a bad muslim
If you abuse islam, you are an islamophobe, if you can’t understand my religion you are an ignorant, if you hate muslims you are a kaffir, if you are a polytheist you are filthy, if you are not a muslim you are going to hell
If you cover yourself you are oppressed, if you are a muslim man you are a wife beater, if you love your religion you are brainwashed, if you don’t have fun, you are a backward, if you…..
Labels, labels and more labels. And add to that the judgments we derive these labels from based on the limited knowledge we have about them when we are not even ready to raise a finger on ourselves knowing how much we sin inside out. So basically when we judge others we give labels, but when judging ourselves we give excuses.
….For indeed, it is not eyes that are blinded, but blinded are the hearts which are within the breasts. [22:46]
Neuroscientists have proved that our brains work illogically. Sometimes NOT in our favor. And most times taking wrong decisions by ignoring facts and information that we do not want to see. Then when it comes to judging people, how can we rely solely on our own unreliable self. There is a time and place and most importantly a need to judge someone. Business dealings, a new teacher, confiding a secret, a marriage proposal and so on. And even then we cannot think beyond our limits because we are susceptible to create fears and worries that are not even there in the first place and assume things which may hamper us from being just to others.
O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful. [49:12]
When I came to Islam, it was pure freedom. Not only from the world and its brooding but from myself, my nafs. And this process is still in work. In my learning phase, I kept coming across things that seem minute but have deeper and profound meanings than what is apparent. Its mind boggling! I keep hearing that the Quran has allegorical meanings hidden in it. And subhanAllah, when I come across what the blessed and learned have found in Allah’s سبحانه و تعالى words, I make dua for the day my eyes will read like them. But that’s not what I intended to talk about.
Ironically, even when I seem to get certain vibes when I meet all kinds of people, I find it hard to go beyond their apparent demeanour so I will never understand the need to judge. I believe we need to know certain things about them and the single most important factor missing to judge someone is knowing their intentions, which obviously…Yeah! exactly
I won’t say I have always been safe from this. More than once I have judged where I shouldn’t have and not where I should have but you live to learn.
So what do we do? how do we know who is out to get us and who is of those we will treasure for a lifetime and want in jannah with us. How do we keep inside our boundaries as slaves of Allah سبحانه و تعالى and avoid unnecessarily making assumptions and giving labels
I found my answer in the way the revelation came to our beloved Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم
“Iqra” was the word that was the beginning for greater things to come. But what followed is what gives us an insight in how we should conduct every affair of ours. And thus the second sentence of revelation was “In the name of your Lord”
Allah سبحانه و تعالى describes Himself with two names more times than there are chapters in the Quran and are the beginning of every chapter except one. “BismillahirRahmanirRaheem”. To know that this is for a reason, you do not need to be a shaikh. Show mercy, show compassion, judge but with love for the creaion
Each one of us is part of a test, some are failing, some have picked themselves up, some are still trying to get up, some do not even know they are broken, some have taken heed, others have already given up. And all we need is not a finger pointing at us, with or without our knowledge. All we need is a little mercy, bit of compassion, some empathy, a pinch of love and loads of forgiveness. This is less compared to what Allah سبحانه و تعالى showers on us everyday. This is the recipe to instill hopes in hearts that are beginning or midway through or haven’t even started out yet and bring them to the path of the Most Merciful and the Most Compassionate. This is the least we could do. These hearts can be our own. This can be our very own returning and I am sure Allah سبحانه و تعالى is waiting for us. Lets not keep Him waiting
Remember that we will not be asked about the sins of others, only ours, only ours
Say, “You will not be asked about what we committed, and we will not be asked about what you do. Say, “Our Lord will bring us together; then He will judge between us in truth. And He is the Knowing Judge.” [34:25-26]
Read, in the name of your Lord
May Allah سبحانه و تعالى forgive me if I have said anything wrong or offended anyone, that was not my intention.