Necessary Roughness

In the Name of Allah, The Most Wise, The Most Loving

Sometimes we need to be kicked hard in life. We need the daylights knocked out of us. We need to be hit where it hurts the most. And the point is many of us go through this kicking routine,until we are so battered and bruised that we can’t fall any further. Only rise back up.Patience

Recently I came across a very graphic video of an elephant giving birth. It scared the hell out of me not because of the gory delivery and all the pool of blood that followed (Sorry if you were eating). These graphic scenes were overshadowed by something so menacing that I couldn’t bear to watch. The menacing part was that the elephant mother was literally kicking its new born fragile baby so hard that you would think it would die. Except, it lay still and lifeless. It was never alive

I switched it off and was so shaken as if I had seen the worst thing in my whole life and that was just on TV. The body of a new born creature being ruthlessly kicked by a powerful animal. This is not for the faint hearted. I switched back hoping to know what’s really happening. And what turned out to be the worst thing I had seen became the most beautiful thing that touched the deepest part of me.

As the mother kicked the baby elephant, the narrator made it clear, that this was not rejection of the child or even attempted infanticide. This was the desperate attempts of a mother to make her baby take the first breath of life. SubhanAllah!

And the next moment. That’s just what happened. Seeing the tiny body of the baby elephant gasping for air after such a beating, I had a little celebration of my own *sniff* T_T oh damn, dust in my eyes

My muslim heart could not help but see the reflection of our life in this event. Sometimes we get so attached to this fleeting world, we lose sight of the most important thing. So much so that we start loving this world with every inch of our heart. Letting it take over us and consume us. We go down without a fight. And each of us have that beloved part of this world that we keep running behind. We distance ourself from the source of life for the source of death. Little by little we begin to die inside

And that is when The Divine Law takes its course. Suddenly we are being shaken like a rag doll. Things start to go downhill and we are rolling with the force or being dragged into the cyclone like innocent bystanders. But things are not always what they seem. One may think that we are being tested severely. We think that we will never make it through. So we complain and grieve so much as if we were already dead. Or wished we were.

Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity…. [The Holy Quran, 2:286 ]

This is necessary roughness. When you are being struck in life know that you are in the hands of Allah subhan wa ta’ala. And this is only because we need “true” life, our iman to be knocked back into us. Even the mother of an animal knew exactly what its child needed to come alive, then what can we think of our Lord who is the Most High, Most Exalted, Most Wise.  Who loves us more than any mother ever can. Allahu Akbar!!

When the love of this dunya threatens to kill our heart and soul, who can know better than Him, how much pain our heart needs to bring it back from the dead, to cleanse it of its sins. Not just that, but to be triumphant with the trophy of His support and guidance. Something we were severely in need of. And so generous is our Lord that He even rewards us for putting up a fight, no matter how weak. And for returning back to Him, something we are supposed to do naturally. SubhanAllah!!

Except for those who repent, believe and do righteous work. For them Allah will replace their evil deeds with good. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful. [25:70]

We have heard enough, read enough and even seen enough. But we need to have a personal lesson to know what it entails to be patient. And this is how we learn.

The words of Ibn Al-Qayyim (may Allah be pleased with him) ring so true.

“The Divine decree related to the believer is always a bounty, even if it is in the form of withholding (something that is desired), and it is a blessing, even if it appears to be a trial, and an affliction that has befallen him is in reality a cure, even though it appears to be a disease!”


So when you are being tested, don’t just bite the dust. Be patient, life is being knocked into you.


Allah Hafiz!


PS: You can watch the video here. But a warning for you, its disturbing if you have a faint heart. But if you can just get past the violence and blood, I assure you it will leave you changed, it did for me 🙂



25 thoughts on “Necessary Roughness

  1. Love it, masha Allah. Life is most definitely being ‘knocked into us’ in those tough situations. SubhanAllah. JazakAllah for this apt and beautiful insight into the fruits that are born through blood and tears. Will watch the video when I gain the courage!

  2. Salaam aleikom
    Love the post sister , I’ve been going through some tough times and I need a constant reminder to keep me from giving up and this was one of those reminders . Jazak Allah Khair

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